Ep. 68 - Making Spooning Sex Hot AF

[00:10] Making Spooning Sex Hot AF

Dr. Bawa: Welcome to the Dr. Sex Fairy Podcast. I am Dr. Kanwal Bawa, America's favorite sex doctor, and I am here to transform your life. Thank you for making this podcast the number one podcast in America and in many parts of the world. We have great discussions here. We talk about things you need to know, things you need to blow, and how to get that afterglow. Our topic today is making spooning sex hot AF. I am going to discuss five positions you are going to love, whether you are straight, gay or lesbian. Whether you are in shape or are overweight, these positions work for everyone.

Dr. Bawa: I have with me one of my faves, Janine Stella, in the studio today. She is the host of Skulls and Stilettos. She was my guest on Episode 36, “Bringing Horny Back: How to Reclaim Your Libido,” and Episode 48, “Tighter, Wetter Vaginas.” Once you are done listening to this episode, you are going to love Janine just like I do, and so make sure you go listen to Episodes 36 and 48. My goal with this podcast is to bring wellness, joy, and passion into your life. Today we are giving you some hot twists on an old favorite. You spoon when cuddling with your partner. Some of you have even had spooning sex. Now you are going to learn how to make spooning sex hot AF. Welcome, Janine.

Janine Stella: Thank you so much for having me.

Dr. Bawa: You are awesome, my friend. It's so great to have you back.

Janine Stella: It's fabulous to be here.

Dr. Bawa: You are one of my regulars, darling.

Janine Stella: I love it.

Dr. Bawa: Isn't that great? So tell me, Janine, have you ever had spooning sex?

Janine Stella: Yes, I have, and I am a big fan.

Dr. Bawa: Really? Do tell.

Janine Stella: So spooning sex is a great way to wake up in the morning when you're lazy in bed and you just want to climax and have an enjoyable morning with your loved one. And I think it's an important way to connect with them and try something different than the usual suspect positions.

Dr. Bawa: Yeah. I mean, missionary, doggy style. It's so boring.

Janine Stella: Very boring.

Dr. Bawa: And this is affectionate. I mean, it's sweet.

Janine Stella: It really is. The way you hold your partner in this, it's sweet, it's sensual, it's pleasurable for both people involved—or multiple partners. I think sex is fun and everyone should be doing it, and if I can help others feel more comfortable on this topic and talking about it, I think we've had a good day.

[02:43] Taking the Shame Out of Sex

Dr. Bawa: I agree. In fact, that's why this podcast exists. I mean, you don't often see sexual medicine doctors talking about how to have hot sex. You don't hear people talking about blowjobs. You don't have those conversations because they're awkward. But why? Why are they awkward? You take the shame out of sex, and that's what this podcast is all about.

Janine Stella: I agree. I appreciate that. I think that sex is an important topic to become normalized in conversation, where in so many years and generations it's been so taboo to talk. And it's a healthy way to feel happiness. And if you're not talking about it and you're not communicating with your partner, how do you have good sex?

Dr. Bawa: Absolutely. And some of my episodes are about erectile dysfunction and how to fix it, or how to get a bigger penis, or like we did, “Tighter, Wetter Vaginas.” But this episode is about pleasure and nothing but pleasure—how to have hot sex. That's what we are talking about today. So who better to discuss it than with you?

Janine Stella: I'm in. Let's do it.

[03:50] Spooning Sex for Every Sexual Orientation

Dr. Bawa: So let's start with different kinds of spooning sex our listeners can have. For the sake of this discussion, I'm not going to say man or woman because that would be making quite an assumption. I'm simply going to say the penetrating partner and the receiving partner. I think people get it that way. You see, the thing is that this position is great no matter what your sexual orientation. If you're a man penetrating a woman, anally or vaginally, it obviously works. If you're a gay man penetrating your partner anally, then it works as well. If you are a lesbian couple, you can use a strap-on and you can use that anally or vaginally and penetrate your partner this way. So you see, it works for everyone.

Janine Stella: I totally agree. I think it's the happy position.

Dr. Bawa: It is the happy position for everybody.

Janine Stella: Everyone and anyone.

Dr. Bawa: The one position that works for everyone. So it's like one size fits all.

Janine Stella: It is.

[04:50] Position 1: Traditional Big Spoon, Little Spoon

Dr. Bawa: So let's talk about the very first way to have spooning sex. And I would say it's, you know, big spoon, little spoon, like you think of it traditionally. What makes this position great is that you can easily stimulate your partner frontally. If you're a man stimulating a woman, you can stimulate her clitoris with your hands or a vibrator. And considering the fact that more women orgasm externally than internally, this makes traditional spooning a truly incredible way for both partners to find pleasure.

Janine Stella: I completely agree, and this is my favorite spooning position. I love this. This is great because, like you said, I can stimulate myself or my partner can stimulate me, and I can control that in the front while he controls the back, and the timing, the pace—you get a rhythm, and it's pleasurable that way.

Dr. Bawa: I love that you said that because you're right, and I should have said that as well, because this is a great position in which you can stimulate yourself in the front. If you're a man, you can give yourself a hand job. If you are a woman, you can stimulate your own clitoris or use a toy yourself. So your partner can use it on you or you can use it on yourself. The options are endless.

[06:15] Position 2: Bend Forward for Deeper Penetration

Dr. Bawa: The second style of spooning that really works, and actually leads to deeper penetration, is when the receiving partner—the partner in the front—bends forward at the waist. So imagine regular spooning, but the partner in the front actually forms something like a V between the penetrating partner's chest and their back. Does that make sense?

Janine Stella: It does. So the front person is just bending forward at the waist. I haven't done this specific type of spooning and I'm actually anxious to try it.

Dr. Bawa: Well, you better try it today and send me your experience.

Janine Stella: I will.

Dr. Bawa: All right. So basically you're forming a V between the two people and it changes penetration.

Janine Stella: It really does. I love this thought and I never thought about doing it until you just said that. That's a great position to try.

[07:07] Position 3: Lift the Top Leg

Dr. Bawa: All right, then moving on to number three. The third is where you are spooning and the partner in the front lifts his or her top leg and rests it on the waist or hip of the partner at the back, depending on what feels more comfortable. So I'll say this again. The partner in the front lifts his or her top leg and rests it on the partner at the back—their hip or their waist—depending on how they want to bend. All variations of spooning sex are really great because you can stimulate the clitoral and the perineal area of your partner, and you aren't using your hand to balance yourself. So it frees you up to stimulate your partner more. And in case someone's wondering what the perineal area is, it's a really sensitive and pleasurable area between the man's scrotum and his anus. A little bit of stimulation goes a long way there, Janine.

Janine Stella: So it's funny you should mention that because I've always called it the taint.

Dr. Bawa: Really?

Janine Stella: Always. The area underneath the balls to the anus. It's that sensitive area that you can play with. You can put your tongue on it, you can stimulate it with your fingers, and it's very pleasurable.

Dr. Bawa: For men, it's very nerve-rich. That's why when somebody stimulates that area, it feels so good to a man. But I never knew it was called a taint.

Janine Stella: See, you learn something new every day. Maybe it's an American term, I don't know, but for the last 25 years I've always referred to it as the taint.

Dr. Bawa: Interesting. Well, it's not part of my Queen's English lexicon, but thank you. Thank you. I do appreciate that.

[08:48] Position 4: Use the Headboard or Couch

Dr. Bawa: Moving on to number four. The fourth way to make spooning sex hot AF is by lying next to your headboard. But instead of having your head by the headboard, you lie across it horizontally. You can do this on a couch as well. Just don't forget to use a sex sheet, or you may never use this position again once you ruin your couch with bodily fluids—you know, vagina juices and all that.

Janine Stella: I have a very good imagination, and that sounds awful. It sounds like a mess on a perfectly good couch.

Dr. Bawa: See, especially if it's fabric and not leather. What a mess.

Janine Stella: Oh, what a mess.

Dr. Bawa: The trick is that the penetrating partner is lying with their back to the headboard, and then the receiving partner lifts their top leg up and rests it on the headboard or the back of the couch. And the thing is, if you're not in the best of shape, this position may take some maneuvering. But if you can get into this position, you will be rewarded. And you can always try some pillows to get yourself more comfortable in any of these positions.

Janine Stella: Tonight is the night.

Dr. Bawa: Tonight is the night, honey.

[10:01] Position 5: Wrap the Top Leg Over

Dr. Bawa: The fifth position for hot spooning sex is when the partner at the back wraps their top leg over the hip of the partner in the front and then rests it between their legs.

Janine Stella: I love this position. You know why?

Dr. Bawa: Why?

Janine Stella: Because the person in the back, when they put their leg over the top, can actually stimulate—whether it's the female on the clitoris, or a man, a gay couple could use it to stimulate the penis.

Dr. Bawa: Agreed. It is a great position to stimulate your partner without using your hands.

Janine Stella: Absolutely. Totally different kind of stimulus. Can I do a spooning session tonight and just try all the different types of spooning at once?

Dr. Bawa: You do that. Okay? Send me notes. We'll do a part two. Tell me how it went.

Janine Stella: Okay. We'll have to do a part two.

Dr. Bawa: Yes. Done.

[10:54] Spooning With Multiple Partners

Dr. Bawa: And the best part is that these positions are perfect for situations even when multiple partners are having sex together. Because, you know, we do live in South Florida. We have the swingers, and I've heard of some pretty hot orgies that happen around here. And so multiple people can be going with this position, like multiple people spooning. More than two people can be doing this.

Janine Stella: Yeah. I mean, it's kind of kinky to think about, but I guess it could be done.

Dr. Bawa: I agree. And it works. It works on many levels—for all fitness levels, for all sexual orientations, everything. This position works.

Janine Stella: It does. And we have given people versions of the same position, so variations on it, and all those variations are wonderful and very pleasurable. I can't wait.

[11:42] Skulls and Stilettos

Dr. Bawa: So, Janine, I know that tonight you're going to be very busy having all kinds of spooning. But at other times you are also the host of a very successful podcast.

Janine Stella: Yeah, so Skulls and Stilettos was born in 2021. I actually interview MMA fighters from all over different fighting organizations, and we're starting up season two actually in a couple weeks. So I'm very excited about that. And you can find us on Roku, Amazon, or Apple TV.

Dr. Bawa: So you're telling me that you're constantly hanging around men who are hot AF.

Janine Stella: Constantly.

Dr. Bawa: What a rough life.

Janine Stella: And I get to see them half naked and they're sweaty, and I just love it.

Dr. Bawa: There's a visual again.

Janine Stella: Yes. Not a hard gig.

Dr. Bawa: Not a hard gig at all.

[12:29] Try These Positions Tonight

Dr. Bawa: To my listeners, I am quite sure that whether you're straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or any combination thereof, or if you have orgies, you have found at least one way to make your sex life hot AF. Use your imagination, children. Try these positions tonight. You will thank me. Until next time.